https://cubxxw.com/tags/personal-growth/ Tech blog by Xinwei Xiong — AI Builder, open source contributor and digital nomad sharing Kubernetes, Go, AI projects and travel. https://cubxxw.com/assets/og-image.png https://cubxxw.com/ Hugo -- gohugo.io en-us Sun, 28 Jun 2026 20:20:00 +0800 https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-03-thought-notes/ Tue, 31 Mar 2026 23:59:59 +0800 Mon, 22 Jun 2026 18:48:25 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-03-thought-notes/ March 2026 thought notes, 468 entries across 31 days. Covers travel impressions (Cambodia Siem Reap, Angkor Wat, Phnom Penh history), AI Agent architecture and multi-agent system design, Khmer civilization engineering aesthetics, and self-narrative cognitive exploration. Core topics: Gewu/AI (53 entries), Gewu/Cambodia (38 entries), Gewu/Angkor Wat (23 entries), Gewu/Hinduism (15 entries), Guannwo (14 entries), Gewu/Vietnam (11 entries). Growth Blog Monthly Notes Personal Growth Travel Self-Discovery AI https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2025-annual-review/ Wed, 25 Mar 2026 12:00:00 +0800 Mon, 22 Jun 2026 18:48:25 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2025-annual-review/ 3,614 notes, fourteen months, one person's attempt to live authentically. From "surge" to "shedding" — not getting older, but becoming real. Growth Blog Annual Recap Travel Personal Growth Philosophy https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-06-28-ignite-and-settle-3-anxious/ Sun, 28 Jun 2026 20:20:00 +0800 Sun, 28 Jun 2026 23:05:15 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-06-28-ignite-and-settle-3-anxious/ Anxious attachment is not about loving too much. It comes from repeatedly experiencing as a child that love would come but might not stay, that people would draw close and then suddenly disappear. So in adulthood the anxious person doesn't distrust love — they fear love disappearing. This piece lays out the origins, typical patterns, the anxious-avoidant trap, and the path of repair, all in one place. Growth Psychology Attachment Relationships Intimacy Inner Work Personal Growth Self-Discovery Love https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-06-28-ignite-and-settle-2-avoidant/ Sun, 28 Jun 2026 20:10:00 +0800 Sun, 28 Jun 2026 23:05:15 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-06-28-ignite-and-settle-2-avoidant/ In the Chinese context, what people often call avoidant personality is more precisely avoidant attachment. Its core is not no need for love but a slowly learned lesson from childhood: expressing needs does not work, getting close is not safe, carrying it alone is steadiest. This piece lays out where it grows from, what its underlying beliefs look like, how it typically shows up, and step by step how it can be repaired — both with others and with yourself. Growth Psychology Attachment Relationships Intimacy Inner Work Personal Growth Self-Discovery Love https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-06-28-ignite-and-settle-1-quality-and-time/ Sun, 28 Jun 2026 20:00:00 +0800 Sun, 28 Jun 2026 23:05:15 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2026-06-28-ignite-and-settle-1-quality-and-time/ Quality and time in companionship are not a choice between two things. They are two different systems doing two different jobs. Quality lights the fire. Time settles it to the bottom. This piece pulls apart the responsiveness system and the habituation system, then uses how the amygdala actually works to explain why safety is not no threat here but no surprise here. Finally we return to the most common and least recognized move of all: why we turn away just as we are about to come close. Growth Psychology Relationships Intimacy Attachment Inner Work Personal Growth Self-Discovery Love https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/super-individual-ai-product-and-solo-builder-stack/ Wed, 24 Jun 2026 14:55:00 +0800 Wed, 24 Jun 2026 15:27:30 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/super-individual-ai-product-and-solo-builder-stack/ As the model layer commoditizes and 40% of enterprise AI projects are headed for cancellation, the super-individual finally has the full primitive set to cut into a $4.6T services market. This essay assembles the most current 2025-2026 methodologies into one executable map: the core thesis, six product directions, five ops stacks, the Soul Core + Harness Engineering foundations, and a 12-month roadmap. Growth Super Individual Solo Builder Indie Hacker AI Agent Harness Engineering MCP Product Strategy Personal Growth The Super-Individual Stack: AI-Native Product Directions and Solo Builder Ops in 2026 https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/love-seen-clearly-loved-deeply/ Mon, 22 Jun 2026 23:19:30 +0800 Tue, 23 Jun 2026 00:07:03 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/love-seen-clearly-loved-deeply/ Five lenses—psychology, biology, anthropology, history, sociology—dissect love, and then Buddhism's dependent origination gathers all five into a single circle. From possession to seeing, from seeing through to loving deeply: a long essay on the anatomy and the liberation of love. Personal Growth Buddhism Philosophy Love Personal Growth https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/weight-of-self-in-ai-age/ Sat, 04 Apr 2026 22:00:00 +0800 Mon, 22 Jun 2026 18:48:25 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/weight-of-self-in-ai-age/ When AI can replace our thinking, execution, and even creation, where does the weight of "self" come from? This isn't an article about career crisis—it's one person's attempt to figure out why they're still here. Growth AI Personal Growth Self-Discovery How to Maintain the Weight of Self in an Age When You Are No Longer Needed https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2023-annual-summary-reflections-and-aspirations/ Sat, 30 Dec 2023 20:56:20 +0800 Tue, 07 Jul 2026 13:05:29 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://cubxxw.com/growth/posts/2023-annual-summary-reflections-and-aspirations/ My 2023 journey: A reflection on personal and professional growth, challenges faced, and aspirations for the future. Dive into my experiences and lessons learned in the realms of open-source contributions, reading, learning, outdoor adventures, and strategic career planning. Growth Blog Personal Growth Career Reflections